Before following through with a divorce and all the costs associated with family law court not to mention the emotional strain, you may want to consider marriage counseling. Divorce can be one of life’s most stressful events for adults as well as the children involved. Children can experience emotional distress for many years to come. 50% of first time marriages in the United States end in divorce. This statistic has remained constant for the last 30 years.
Marriage counselors help couples work on their problems and come to mutually beneficial solutions. Divorce may be the best solution for many couples but counselor can address many stressful issues including:
Affairs – Affairs are the cause of many divorces and recovering from an affair is not easy and it takes a lot of commitment and forgiveness. If both couples are on board in the therapy process they may be able to eventually salvage the marriage and avoid divorce.
Negativity – Many couples after being married for many years develop a habit of negatively talking to their spouse leaving them feeling depressed, unloved and withdrawn.
Can’t resolve differences – If a couple can’t resolve their differences even when they know they exist then that is the time to get a third party involved in order to offer an objective viewpoint.
Alcoholism or drug abuse – When on spouse has a problem with alcohol or drugs it can leave the other feeling alienated and ignored. A counselor can help resolve the emotional distress that has been caused as well as refer the person with the substance abuse problem for additional help.
Finances – Differences over the finances can be the single biggest problem in many marriages. A counselor can come up with a plan to address these differences.
It may be that the marriage is beyond repair, but for many couples counseling may guide them and remind them why they loved each other in the first place.